Great Faith for a Great Marriage

love your husband day 3

“But My righteous one will live by faith; and if he shrinks back, I will take no pleasure in him.” Hebrews 10:38.

“Faith sees the invisible, believes the unbelievable and receives the impossible.”  –  Corrie Ten Boom

 

  • Take some time this morning to meet with your precious Savior. Spend a moment praising Jesus for who He is and for His unfailing love and care. Ask Him to speak to your heart as you read His Word, and teach you about loving your husband well, and living by faith.
  •  Read Hebrews 10:35-39. Write verse 38 in your journal. For deeper study, read the whole chapter.

Great Faith for a Great Marriage!

It’s amazing what can trigger your faith. Today, I saw a picture of a beautiful woman of faith and the man who God brought to her to marry! I have prayed for many years for this amazing girl to find her husband, and I can’t believe how much my faith feels strengthened because of it!

What a blessing it is to have your faith strengthened!

On the other hand, it can also be easy to experience doubt and allow yourself to feel discouraged in your faith. When you go to the dark places in your mind and focus on all of the things in your life that feel broken, it can lead to doubt and depression.  You may have prayers that you have prayed and prayed, but God still doesn’t answer; He seems silent, and like He’s not there.

We all have difficult areas in our marriages. Marriage can be tough. Sometimes these difficulties can seem too much to bear; that there is no use of even trying anymore. You may have issues that are unresolved, and the hurts may creep into your thoughts so much that the fire which once burned bright with love for you husband now feels reduced to nothing more than an ember. You may even think you want to give up!

I am here to tell you to keep trying! Don’t give up. No matter how dim it seems, keep trying, keep praying, stay in faith and keep trusting God. What do you have to lose? Marriage matters to God, and He will do all He can,  (which is a LOT), to help you and your husband to stay married.

Begin today to pray for your husband and your marriage. Start to make a habit of gratitude where you thank God for one new thing each day about your husband. Guard your mind against toxic thoughts by praying and practicing gratitude.

I once heard of a woman who made a tape recording of the positive things that she loved about her husband and marriage and played them each morning while getting ready. Her husband was also getting ready at the same time and heard these positive things said about him and their marriage.  I am sure that he may have been cynical at first and doubted if she meant the words that she spoke. Over time, though, their marriage got better and began to heal.

God delights in answering the faithful prayers of His children!

Dear Sister, isn’t your marriage worth doing whatever it takes to make it better? Praying, gratitude, and staying in faith are all investments with great returns! Commit today to stay in faith and pray for your marriage. Thank God for the man He gave to you and the opportunity to be married, and show your husband the love of Christ. Remember, when you love a difficult person, and you feel hurt, you are sharing in the sufferings of Christ; you are learning what it means to love another deeply and to have the love that covers over a multitude of sins.

A young friend of mine recently brought up the fact that once we get to heaven, we will no longer be able to share in the sufferings of Christ. Suffering is one of the great ways that we get to share something deeply with Christ, and see things from His perspective, and love how He loved. Don’t ever discount the impact on eternity that you will have when you choose to live by faith and love like Jesus.

Questions to Ponder: Answer these questions in your journal. 

  • Pray and ask God to show you areas of your life and marriage where you are not living by faith.
  • Ask God for forgiveness, the strength to live by faith, and walk by faith, one day at a time.

Faith-Filled Idea:

  • Make every effort to assume the best of your husband. Remember, most people will rise to what you think of them!  “Love…hopes all things.” 1 Corinthians 13:7.
  • Act your way into a feeling. What you are thinking in your heart usually comes out of your mouth. Think kind and loving thoughts toward your husband as much as possible and your feelings will follow.

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Deb Weakly

15 Comments on “Great Faith for a Great Marriage”

  1. Both of the faith filled ideas in this study really stuck out to me. 1. To assume the best of your husband
    2. Act your way into a feeling.
    I definitely need to work on building my husband up and these points will surely help me!

  2. Make every effort to assume the best of your husband. Remember, most people will rise to what you think of them! “Love…hopes all things.” 1 Corinthians 13:7.

    One more thing. I have a children’s book that is a fun picture of this concept of how people will rise to what you think of them. It is by The Giant King | Kathleen Pelley
    just for fun.

  3. The personal examples shared are so helpful and encouraging to remind us we are not alone as wives. I know God is with us, which is amazing!, but hearing from other wives is so helpful too!

    Thanks to all of the contributors for their studies they wrote, and examples they gave!

  4. Hi Deb, This, again, was so good. Loved this paragraph:
    Begin today to pray for your husband and your marriage. Start to make a habit of gratitude where you thank God for one new thing each day about your husband. Guard your mind against toxic thoughts by praying and practicing gratitude.

    I think the strength of the Help Club is how biblically deeply rooted it is in the topics that really, really matter: God’s word, prayer, identity in Christ, marriage. Thank you for keeping it so rich in the truth of God.

  5. I Love the stories or examples you give so I am able to get a better understanding of how doing whatever it is for that day will help me and make me a better person. This is all wonderful stuff for me to take to heart for my future marriage and thing to pray for my future husband. 🙂

  6. I loved loved loved the faith filled idea! “Make every effort to assume the best of your husband. Remember, most people will rise to what you think of them!” This is so important and I have seen the benefits of this firsthand. Early on in our marriage, I would speak down of Hugh to other people and/or complain about him. This was not good and brought about a lot of hurt and pain. In marriage, we are a team and should always think the best of each other and treat each other with respect. Thank you Deb for this reminder!

    1. Thanks so much for your honesty Rachel! I agree. We need to speak kindly of our husbands. They really are listening and hear what we say- good or bad. I appreciate you! 🙂

  7. I love the way you approached the topic of marriage. These lessons are pertinent to everyone and can be applied to ANY relationship, not just husbands.

  8. This week’s lesson on husbands is vital. There is so much that is not understood when coming into marriage. We assume that husbands will think like us and that the way we think is the right way. Rather, I should say I thought this way. After twenty-four and a half years of marriage I am still learning how to love my husband and be the godly help mate he needs. I was meeting with two sweet godly women this week that have marriages that are in vulnerable places which brought the need for dependence on the Lord in our marriages to the forefront once again. I would be lying to say my husband and I have outgrown misunderstandings. Growing in unity is a life long endeavor. Good communication is worth fighting for. Praying that God will help us to unconditionally love our spouses and display the kindness of the Lord to them as we wait patiently for our sanctification and theirs is the only way to “stay the course”. I am praying for each of your marriages and for mine this week. To the glory of our King!

    1. Thank you so much Lisa! I absolutely LOVE your heart for the HCFM’s! I agree, marriage is SO important. When we invest in our marriages,it is truly the best investment of our time there is! 🙂

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