Reaching Your Child’s Heart
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. The tongue of the wise adorns knowledge, but the mouth of the fool gushes folly. Proverbs 15:1-2
“To handle yourself, use your head; to handle others, use your heart.” -Eleanor Roosevelt
- Start your day with God! Grab your Bible, a journal, a pen, and find a comfortable place to sit. Open up your heart during this time to the Lord.
- Pray against distractions and idleness. This is your time!
- Read Proverbs 15: 1-2, 4 in your Bible. Write verse 1 in your journal.
Reaching Your Child’s Heart
When my girls became toddlers and started taking on more responsibilities, my life became more difficult. It felt more difficult because with more responsibilities came more mishaps, messes, and mistakes!
I remember in those days, little things like a spill in the kitchen would often cause me to lose my temper, especially on a busy day. Looking back, it took only five minutes to clean up the mess, but it took much longer to mend my daughter’s broken spirit after I had scolded her.
Over the years, I have had to submit my temper and anger to the Lord. And He is so good! He revealed to me what an honor it is to be a mom, and has helped me to remain calm and lean on Him.
Most importantly, He spoke to me about how fragile and precious my girl’s hearts and spirits are to Him.
Children, especially when they are under the age of 12, look up to their parents and admire them more than any other adults in their life. As parents, we have the power to nurture our children’s hearts. However, after our child has done something that frustrates us, our tendency is to lose our temper and say something we regret. This is dangerous.
With every sharply delivered word or disapproving stare, our children’s hearts become smaller and more hidden away.
Colossians 3:21 says, “Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged.” With this kind of behavior over time, we can truly break our children’s hearts and spirits.
Our children do not need a rigid taskmaster but a loving encourager!
Our children need a mom who, as it says in Proverbs 3:5, “trusts in the Lord with all her heart and leans not on her own understanding.”
I would like to encourage you, dearest mama, to avoid overreacting to minor child mishaps and accidents. If there is a legitimate issue with your child that does need to be addressed, I encourage you to lead by example. Show your child that you can remain calm.
Also, model for your child the most important thing: turning to Jesus in prayer and reading His word. Let them know that Mommy has to ask God for help too and that you’re not perfect. They will appreciate not feeling like they are the only ones who mess up!
Let’s all celebrate our children by nurturing and protecting their hearts together!
Questions to Ponder
- When was the last time you looked your child directly in the face and told them you loved them and are proud of them?
- Read Psalms 112:1-2. How does this verse make you feel? Convicted? Encouraged? Write down some thoughts in your journal.
Faith Filled Idea
This week let’s focus on praising our wonderful children. Strive to speak three times more positive words than negative ones to your child. Go even further and make lists for all of your children celebrating the qualities and talents you love and admire about them. Read the list out loud to all of your children over dinner one night. Their little hearts will swell with encouragement.
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-What is an area of your parenting that you have struggled with and had to submit to the Lord?