What does it mean to stay? In a culture that is fast-paced, on the go, and pushing change, this idea can be lost. As moms, our “jobs” in our home can feel mundane at best and our hearts long for change and a new rhythm from time to time. The concept of staying is often one that comes with a bit of resistance. For example:
How do you stay when the journey ahead looks murky and unclear? Even hopeless?
How do you stay when someone has been unfaithful or has hurt you deeply?
How do you stay when you feel as though you are stuck in a hamster wheel and are going nowhere? Whether in a relationship or life in general?
How do you stay when a friendship feels complicated and disappointing?
How do you stay and remain in love when your child is continually disobedient and disrespectful?
How do you stay when you feel as though God has not answered prayers and doesn’t seem to hear your cries for help?
…there are many more circumstances in life that make the idea of staying so difficult, but friends, it is the way.
In 2 Timothy 4:7 it says:
“I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith.”
Mom, in order to fight the good fight and to finish the race, we must persevere when the going gets tough. There are a million reasons to quit. Culture and Satan will tempt you with the grass being greener on the other side of your circumstance. It takes courage to stay when you have been deeply hurt, It takes perseverance to push through a job that seemingly yields no fruit but pays the bills. It takes bravery to embrace someone you love after they have betrayed you. It takes boldness to step out in faith and pray again and again after what feels like silence on the other side.
Our obedience in staying when the going gets tough is what builds our faith and produces the character and person that God created us to be! It is the refining power that will truly help make the “grass feel greener” right where you are.
Jesus gave us such a beautiful example of staying. When He was on the road to the cross and the days leading up to His crucifixion, He could have given up at any point. After all, He was innocent! He didn’t deserve one bit of the punishment he endured on our behalf. But He did it anyway. He saw that fighting the good fight and finishing the race was worth it and did whatever it took to get there. He never gave up.
Whatever you are facing today, please know that Jesus is with you. He wants to help you. He is your strength when you are weak. He gives you peace that surpasses anything you can imagine. Your life circumstances are never too big for God. He is all you need to be able to stay wherever He has called you no matter how dark it feels. He is your light that guides you!
We have written our newest study “The Wise Woman Stays” for this purpose. Whatever the area is in your life that God has asked you to be faithful and obedient, listen and follow Him. He is the Shepherd of your heart and knows exactly what you need. As you read the words of these pages and ponder the idea of “staying,” ask God to reveal Himself to you and shed light on where you need to stay and be faithful. Jesus delights in your steadfastness!
“May the Lord bless you and keep you; The Lord make His face shine upon you, And be gracious to you; The Lord lift up His countenance upon you, And give you peace.”
Krystle and The Help Club for Moms Team