Where Do We Find the Answers?

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There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens. Ecclesiastes 3: 1

“Be assured, if you walk with Him and look to Him, and expect help from Him, He will never fail you.”- George Mueller

 

  • Call your prayer partner for your 10-minute prayer call. Keep trying to connect until you get to pray together. This tiny habit of praying with a friend regularly will truly change your life!
  • It’s time to meet with your Jesus! He is the One who longs to hold you close and teach you all you need to know. Rejoice today, knowing that because of who you are in Christ, you can be confident that the good work God has begun in you will be perfected! (Philippians 1:6) He will never give up on you and will keep working in your life, making you like Jesus until the day you get to see Him face-to-face! Rejoice in this wonderful truth that you truly are “a work of God in progress!”
  • Read Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8. Read the whole chapter if you have time.  Write verse 1 in your journal.

Where do we Find the Answers?

Before I launch into this wonderfully important topic, “Workers at Home,” I want to encourage you from my heart and say that God does not expect performance from His daughters. He sees us, loves us, and accepts us for who we are. His Spirit living inside of us changes us from the inside out, and we begin to desire what God desires and can live to please Him in all of our ways.

When you think about the work that you do at home, I would like to invite you to silence the voices of perfectionism, comparison, and condemnation. Take those thoughts captive to Jesus, and live in the place of grace knowing that you have the mind of Christ. (1 Corinthians 2:16) His desire is for you to listen to His voice each day (John 10:27) and be the woman, wife, and mother that He created you to be. Peace be with you!

Do you ever notice that there is a seeming lack of instruction in Scripture about the details of being a worker at home?  For instance, God doesn’t tell us how clean our houses should be, how long our children should nap, or when to start potty-training.

Even though the Bible may not answer the specific questions, I believe the Bible as a whole is where we are to go with every question, and especially Mom and Worker at Home questions. Spending time with God regularly helps us to learn to hear His voice and to make wise decisions in our homes.

God cares about every area of your life. You can rest assured that He will even help you with potty training. Now, you might be asking, “How on earth is the Bible going to help me to potty train?”

I’m glad you asked!

Let’s say you decide to potty train your little one, but he simply isn’t getting it. You spend hours trying to get him to go on the little potty, but he is afraid and cries every time you even try to put him on it. You are so stressed out and frustrated and feel that all of your time is being sucked away, and it doesn’t seem to be worth it.

You decide to pray and ask God for help and wisdom. A moment later you call your husband and tell him about your situation. He suggests waiting until your son is older. What do you do?

There are so many voices in your head right now as you’re trying to make this decision. There is a strong voice that tells you that you are a failure, and all of your friends have trained their boys by now, so just be strong! What will your friends think when you tell them that you have decided to wait?

But then you hear a quiet voice in your head saying to listen to your husband and to give it a rest for a while.

The next day, during your quiet time, you pray again for wisdom and read in Ecclesiastes 3:1, “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.” You also read “Love is patient, love is kind…” 1 Corinthians 13:4.

You sense that quiet voice again, it is still saying the same thing, “Listen to your husband and wait.” I can tell you with complete confidence that this is the voice of God giving you the answer to your request for wisdom.

It’s sad to say, but there is peer pressure even among moms. You may feel pressure to do what everyone else is doing, but God knows what’s best for your family. He knows how He wants you to spend your time right now. He may have other plans for your days during this season. This may be what’s best for your son, and for you.

The big idea here is that God wants you to come to Him for everything. He also wants you to seek your husband’s advice and to trust him. Also, when you tell your friends your decision to wait, if they are true friends, they will support you and trust that you walk with God and know what’s best for your family.

Lastly, I remember a godly older woman telling me that she never knew a child who went to school in diapers, and to let my children go at their own pace. (On a side note, I actually remember having bed-wetting accidents at night until I was around 10 years old, but am proud to say I’m fully potty trained now! haha.)

Trust God with every area of your life! He will never fail you!

Questions to ponder 

  • Pray and ask God to show you if there are any areas of your life that you are listening to the world more than Him. Are you giving in to peer pressure? Are you comparing your children to other children who you know? Do you find yourself comparing yourself as a mom to anyone else, and coming up short?
  • Write these areas in your journal and also write a prayer giving these struggles to Christ, asking Him for help to overcome. Ask Him for forgiveness and to help you to listen to the voice of God more than the voice of men.

Faith-Filled Idea

  • God’s Word has always been very important to our family. So through the years,  we have had some type of writing board at our house such as a cheap dry-erase board, a standing one (50 percent off at Hobby Lobby), and a framed chalkboard (I asked for as a Christmas present from my family)  to write Bible verses on. I always kept the mounted one in my kitchen, and the standing one in my entryway where my family would see it most often. Each time I would write a new verse, I gathered the children and talked to them about why the verse was important to me. The children loved it when we would let them pick a verse and write it out too! We also use the board as a welcome sign to make a house guest or friend feel special, as well as writing Happy Birthday or Anniversary wishes. But the main thing we use it for is Scripture.
  • Purchase or make some type of board to use in your home to write scripture. Whatever you do, keep it simple. Don’t try to make it perfect, just get something that you can use now. Allow yourself two weeks to complete this assignment.

 

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Deb Weakly

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Deb is married to her soulmate of 26 years, Randy. They have two grown children, Christie and Jack, and one precious, answer to prayer son-in-love named Alex.

If there was one thing Deb would love to share with you is that God is personal and loves you as you are. You don’t have to be perfect to be loved by our amazing God! Come as you are! His loving presence can be practically known and experienced. He is not a God who is far away, He is dearly near and easily found. He longs for you to come to Him!

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21 Comments on “Where Do We Find the Answers?”

  1. Deb, I wish I had these words if encouragement years ago! However, I need a constant reminder of listening to the Holy and Spirit and not the world. Thank you for sharing your heart in this. By the way, love your openess?

    1. Thanks so much Tara! It is so much better to listen to the Holy Spirit! Oh my goodness, the difference He makes in our lives! Where would we be without our Jesus?!

  2. PRAISE GOD! In my journal, I wrote that I don’t feel like I compare myself to other moms like I used to do. I’m much more okay with who I am. Even though I find myself surrounded by artistic-moms or super-tidy-can’t-stand-disorder-moms, that’s now how God made me. If I want to change, then it’s up to me and not so that I’ll fit in.

    1. Thanks so much Daphne! I feel the same way! I remember comparing myself to other moms and I always felt so bad about myself! Comparison is no Bueno!?

  3. I have always write scripture on small notes for myself around the house but have now done so in the kitchen on the dry erase board. It was so heart filling seeing my children interested in knowing what it said, where it’s at in the bible, and what it means! I am praying that seeing scripture in more places around the house will also encourage my husband to dig deeper into his own faith!! Thank you for your amazing encouragement Deb!

  4. The scripture I Cor. 2:16 is a great verse. I think including verses 12-16 Helped me to understand and remember what it means to have the mind of Christ. From the Spirit, not human wisdom but from the Spirit of God. Even verses 10-16 might be good to include.

    God does not expect performance from His daughters. Wow, that was good for me to hear and in a way that I have not thought of before. “bold it” 🙂

    Your examples in Where to find the answers are very thorough and needed in this big concept. Just right!

    I love the chalk board idea and letting kids participate in choosing verses, what a great idea.

    Feedback ?:
    Giving “real ” life examples of how you incorporate your ideas or the verses, makes it very tangible. Sometimes we get stuck and can’t think of how to try something new.

    I appreciate the accountability of knowing other moms are doing this study and reading the same scriptures and are all trying to figure out how to live as a better mom.

    Sarah

  5. Thanks for the encouragement to “keep on swimming” Pat and I were away last week and had little internet access. Climbed a fourteener and have still been recovering! So…all this to say that life sometimes puts important things like this mentoring program on hold. I should have trained more before climbing!! The loving your children lessons were such a strong encouragement. “When we feel loved it’s so much easier to give love.” As we pursue Jesus we experience His saving love and have an overflow to share. Also, if we look at Jesus as our teacher first before looking to Him as our Savior the list of “to dos” is hopelessly impossible. Love, forgive, be patient, be kind, persevere, reflect His image…and the list goes on”. It is His saving power that enables us to be the woman, wife, mother and friend that He asks us to be. He makes all things broken in our lives new in His perfect way and timing.

    1. Oh my goodness Lisa you are SO wise! I am so thankful for you and love all of your feedback! I’m so impressed to hear that you climb 14ers! Wooooooooowwwww!! That’s why you look so great after having 13 children! I can’t wait to see you soon! 🙂

  6. Reading this I’m convicted that I need to pray for wisdom in a certain area of discipline for my youngest–there are LOTS of voices telling me how to do it, but I haven’t sat down to see the Lord’s wisdom! This is my common struggle–I seek God in the big decisions, but so often forget in the little ones, which I think are probably even more important!

    1. Hi Jessica! You are SUCH a fantastic Mama Jess! I absolutely LOVE your children! I will be praying for you! Miss you! 🙂

  7. Thank you for today’s study Deb. As I sit at my kitchen table and the rest of the house is quiet, I am inspired and excited to welcome my children this morning. My children are a gift from God and where they are at socially and academically is perfect and right where the Lord wants them! I love the reminder today to not compare worry about what my friend’s kids are doing. Seeking God and turning to the scriptures is ALL I need. It is SO freeing to remember that!

    This study is sure to encourage lots of women.:-) Also, I liked how you put the mommy tips reminder within day one this week. Having the link is wonderful. I think it was a nice gentle nudge but not too much pressure. I love how you wrote “just do you.”

    1. Thanks so much Rachel! I appreciate all of your wisdom about the Mommy Tips! I am so thankful for your brain:) You are excellent in all that you do and REALLY smart, especially when it comes to ministry. Thanks for all you do! 🙂

  8. Deb, this Devo really spoke to me, and ministered to my heart. I love, love, love how you encourage us to follow the Holy Spirit instead of man. I always need to hear this. I also love how you showed us that our every answer lies within the Word, and we can apply it our every lives. The potty training example is awesome! 🙂 I love your heart and am so super blessed from God to have you as a friend!

  9. Oh Deb…as you know, today’s study was for me. How I need to be reminded not to compare my family and our process to others. This was refreshing, inspiring and hope filled. Thank you!

    I love the chalk board idea! Moriah just turned 3 a few weeks ago but she has been blowing me away with her memory. I try to say the verse i am memorizing out loud quite often, then one day she started saying it to me! I am learning it is never to early to get the Bible into my little ones 🙂

  10. Thank you for this Deb! I love reading your words everyday and your encouragement to go to the word and hear God’s voice! Thank you! I need encouragent in this subject so much as it has become one of my biggest struggles. Thank you for the reminder to seek God and my husband for wisdom for the best way to keep my house. I pray that the Lord continues to teach me and all of us how to serve with joy!

    1. Oh, also, I have always lived reading the verses up around your house! I have a board that I forget to use. I am going to go add a verse now! Thank you for continuing to remind us of the importance of being surrounded by God’s word and using it to teach and guide our children!

  11. Hi Deb!
    I have comments about this one AND last week’s “Children” topic too, because we were away. 🙂

    So, last week’s study rocked. We all desperately need to be reminded of God’s viewpoint of children, rather than the world’s. We are inundated with messages that children are a distraction from living our life to the fullest. Jesus wanted the children to come to Him. He wanted US to emulate THEIR faith. He took the time to be with them. So much more I could say, but I really did appreciate the reminder to look at my children as a gift & heritage from God.

    And, day one of Workers was great. I find I’m going so fast that I just need to sloooow down & do simple things like meditate on God’s word, ask for my husband’s advice, and look my children in the eyes…taking busyness of the throne on which I’ve placed it.

    We do a weekly verse on the chalkboard wall on our loft every Monday morning. I choose the verse; the children write it. Each person in the family has to say it on Friday at dinner.
    Lots of love,
    Kristi
    PS- I think there is an extra space after the words “It’s sad to say, but” in the Where do we Find the Answers section.

    1. Hi Kristi!! I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO thankful for all of your valuable comments!! I fixed each of the spaces and spelling errors. Thank you!!
      I absolutely LOVE your perspective on the Word of God and how you treasure Jesus! The study is way better because of your feedback! Love you!! 🙂

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