“My heart is not proud, Lord, my eyes are not haughty; I do not concern myself with great matters or things too wonderful for me. But I have calmed and quieted myself, I am like a weaned child with its mother; like a weaned child I am content.” Psalm 131:1-2
Learning to be Still
Have you ever seen a nursing baby with his mother? He has moments of stillness and quiet when he rests gently in her arms, but as soon as he gets hungry, he begins to show signs of restlessness. When his mother moves to get ready to nurse, the baby starts fussing, realizing his hunger and the need for comfort.
A weaned child, on the other hand, is peaceful and content to sit on his mother’s lap. Instead of crying out for the breast, he now feels satisfied to lie back, experiencing the warmth of being enveloped in mama’s arms and the comfort of resting against her chest.
Dear mama, do you ever feel like a nursing baby? Does your soul feel restless and weary when you think about the uncontrollable circumstances of your life? I know mine does. Many times my heart has felt restless and discontent from the longings and unfulfilled expectations that have resided there. I found my thoughts consumed with anxiety, and my life felt out of control.
Even as I write, I sense the Holy Spirit calling me as He always does to live a surrendered life in complete humility and dependence on Christ. I feel God saying to me that I am worried about too many “many things,” and I need to stop trying to control my life and my circumstances.
I am learning that only the patient love of Jesus brings true joy and peace. When I choose to give control of my life to Christ, trusting that He is good and will fulfill my longings in His way and in His timing, then I begin to see the truth: God is with me, sees me, and fulfills my heart’s desires in the proper way. I see that I can’t depend on people or things to make me happy. Only then can I surrender my expectations to the One who knows what’s best for me and trust that He cares for me. When I count my blessings each day and see what God does give me, I find my heart happier and peaceful.
Beloved, if you find your heart in a state of restlessness and discontent, join me in asking Jesus to help us humbly turn our gaze away from ourselves and onto Him so we may feel His love and care every day. As we keep our eyes fixed on the Lord and ask Him to fill us up as only He can instead of looking to our husbands, finances, friends, or circumstances to fill our every need, we find lasting joy and the peace that surpasses understanding.
We begin to walk through each day with Jesus and waltz through each season of life with a heart of love and gratitude.
Blessings and Love,
Do you have unmet expectations and desires? Release them to God and ask Him to fulfill your longings perfectly. Ask for His help to wait patiently and delight in His will. As you wait, don’t miss the God-given opportunities to love others well. Seize every moment and choose to enjoy who and what He does bring.
Establish “check points” in your day to get into the habit of noticing the goodness of God. Involve your children and show them God is real! Upon waking and again at 9 AM, lunchtime, 3 PM, 6 PM, and bedtime, ask yourself, “Where did I see God’s goodness?” Make a poster of the different times and write the little blessings in each time slot. Try this for 21 days. This one habit will change your life as you begin to feel God’s presence and care in every moment of every day!
I remember going into my daughter's room night after night and kneeling beside her bed and crying my heart out to God because I didn’t know how to be a Christian mom; I felt like I had no idea what I was doing. You know what? God is so faithful! He answered me and simply said, “Spend time with me, Deb.” And so I did. I began arising 15-30 minutes earlier each day so I could read my Bible and pray, and plan out my day with my family.
If there was one thing I would love to share with you is that God is personal and loves you as you are. You don’t have to be perfect to be loved by our amazing God! Come as you are! His loving presence can be practically known and experienced. He is not a God who is far away, He is near and easily found. He longs for you to come to Him!
Randy and I have been married for 28 years and we have two grown children, Christie, and Jack, and one answer to prayer son-in-law named Alex. And now I get to be a Gigi to my sweet little grandbaby, Aspen! Yay!