Encouragement for Bonus Moms

Are you a Stepmom or Bonus Mom? Your work for the Lord matters GREATLY to God! Here’s a beautiful letter to all of you sweet mamas from one of our Bonus Mom writers, Danielle Novotny. It’s so encouraging and so beautiful!!

Also, be sure to scroll down to the bottom of this post for a link to a NEW YouVersion plan just releasing today for Bonus Moms!! We hope you feel blessed as you read it!! We love you!!💗

“Happy (almost) Mother’s Day, Mamas!

I am so thankful for each and every one of you and I hope you have allowed this wonderful group of women at the Help Club to encourage you and help you through your journey of Motherhood.

When I was younger, I lost my biological mom to suicide and addiction. There were many years of pain and hurt and a lot of “messy stuff” in my childhood. I adored my mom nonetheless and always wanted her to know how much I loved her and always wanted to make Mother’s Day special for her. Throughout all of the bad stuff we went through, there were many positives that I hold onto now that I have children of my own.

My dad began to date my stepmom while my mother was still alive and she quickly became a huge role model of mine. I will admit, she was very much under-appreciated through my teenage years and I have tried my best to make up for that as I grew older and had a child and stepchild of my own.

Growing up I held onto a lot of pain and confusion of losing my mom and really tried to understand the role that my stepmom had in my life. My stepmom helped my dad and I begin to go to church more regularly. She established healthy routines in our lives. She helped me really figure out a lot of who I wanted to be as an adult and I got to see what a stable household should look like. The role my stepmom took on was not one she took lightly and she poured everything she had into helping mold me.

The point of my sharing a little glimpse of my life with you, mamas, is to explain that I understand from a few different perspectives that it is not easy taking on the role you were given. Many times I find myself locked in a bathroom or in the shower just so I can have a little moment to myself. It is okay to not have it all together or to get frustrated with those hard days. I understand the hardships you face in your role as being a mom (in any capacity). However, I can tell you as a stepmom, biological mom, and a stepdaughter; you MATTER. What you’re doing is going to pay off and you have to keep going. You may never get the recognition you hope for or maybe you will. Either way, know that you are doing incredible things in your children’s lives and they will benefit so much from it.

“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” Proverbs 22:6 (ESV)

So, from one Step-Mom/biological mom to another, HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!! Thank you for what you’re doing in these kids’ lives. I pray blessings upon you and your family and a weekend full of joy and peace.

“You are as much serving God in looking after your own children, and training them up in God’s fear, and minding the house, and making your household a church for God, as you would be if you had been called to lead an army to battle for the Lord of hosts.” Charles Spurgeon

What are you doing this weekend to celebrate Mother’s Day? We would love to hear back from you!! If you need prayer, please email us!



Ps- Click here to access our NEW “Encouragement for Bonus Moms” plan on the YouVersion Bible app!

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4 Comments on “Encouragement for Bonus Moms”

  1. We had my nephew’s friend come to live with us almost 3 years ago. His mom is in the picture(not always there) and dad never has been. We gained guardianship for junior and senior year and now paying for college. There are times now I feel like I’m not needed by him and doubt my role as bonus mom. I dont know if its him not knowing how to express his feelings or if I’m reading more into it. He doesnt express deep feelings but I know he cares about us. Looking forward to this plan. I’ve completed day 1. Thank you.

    1. Hi Kelly, You have such a sweet heart for this young man. I know the Lord sees you, and knows your pain. He is the rewarder of all we do for Him. May God bless you for all you have done for your bonus son.
      I’m praying for you.

    2. We are so glad you’re here! I hope the plan is a blessing to you in your journey. I love that you’re leaning into God’s word to help you navigate all of this. You are so important in his life! He will look back on this time with you all and be able to learn so much from it. Blessings and love to you and your family.

    3. Hello Ms Kelly Driver,
      You’re msg is powerful, may God bless you for what you have done.
      To be honest I am in great pain would like someone to talk to,especially a mom like. Would be so happy to have a bonus mom here in America..I am from Africa,got no relatives or parents here I am just by myself. I am 7 months pregnant..which we can be connected and talk,needs some advice from a bonus mom. Thanks.

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