Walk with the wise and become wise, for a companion of fools suffers harm. Proverbs 13:20
“The next best thing to being wise oneself is to live in a circle of those who are.” C.S. Lewis
- Take time and start your day with a special quiet time of prayer, Scripture reading, and listening for the Lord to speak to your heart. Ask the Lord to speak to you specifically about what it means to be a worker at home. Also, take the time to light a candle, and get something delicious to sip during your quiet time today.
- Read Proverbs 13:20 and write this in your journal. If you have time, read the whole chapter!
Who are You Walking With?
When I think about being a more effective worker at home, I am always drawn back to my time in the South with my southern friends. These were the “wise friends” God gave me during this time of my life. Being a military spouse, I have the opportunity to live in some great places in our country, but the lessons I learned while in Georgia have stayed with me, mostly because of the women who walked with me during that season. Here are some great tips that I learned from my season in the South.
- Challenge each other spiritually. We talked about the Lord, how He was working in our lives, and what we were learning from scripture. It’s so important to have friends around you who sharpen you in your walk with God. (Proverbs 27:17)
- Are not afraid to get dirty. They do not shy away from any hard work. We all need to work hard in our homes.
- Ask for help. They do not go through life alone. They lean on their friends during the good times and the bad. Pray and ask God to bring you a friend to do life with, and to pray with. He is faithful and will provide. (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10)
- Believe that family is the most important aspect of life. No one is more dedicated to their family. They value time with their loved ones.
- Have a unique ability to chat with anyone in any situation. They can make anyone feel at ease, and purpose to have a comfortable atmosphere in their homes. Don’t live in a museum. It makes people feel uncomfortable if they think that they or their children need to be perfect when they are in your house.
- Get ready for the day. They are intentional with their dress and appearance. They believe looking put together means the world will take you more seriously. Take the time each day to apply whatever cosmetics that makes you feel lovely, but remember, the most important beauty comes from within. (1 Peter 3:3-4)
- They celebrate their life. Southern women are at peace with their families, their lives, and their homes. They open their home at a moment’s notice. Ask God to help you to be at peace with your home and not to beat yourself up if it’s not always as clean as you would like. Remember, anytime you are actively serving the Lord and opening up your home, the devil would love to discourage you. Proverbs 16:3 says, “Commit your works to the Lord, and your thoughts will be established.” Let God ordain your thoughts about your home. If you are constantly worried about your home not being “good enough,” all I can say (in my best Elsa voice) is “Let it go.” You are the best mom for your children and the best wife for your husband. When in doubt, pray, do your best, then let God do the rest.
- Make rest a priority. Even God rested on the 7th day. Not only should we rest on the Sabbath, but we should make room in our lives for things we like to do. Genesis 2:2-3 tells us, “By the seventh day God had finished the work he had been doing; so on the seventh day he rested from all his work. Then God blessed the seventh day and made it holy because on it he rested from all the work of creating that he had done.” If God places an importance on rest and renewal, so should you. Often as moms, we put ourselves and our needs last. While this is important at times, it is also just as important for you to recharge yourself. For me, I love to get on the treadmill and worship. I love being able to be alone with my thoughts and my God. After I exercise, I always feel refreshed and more at peace.
Pretty great, right? It is kind of a checklist on how to be your best self. Leaning on our friends and learning from other women will only increase our confidence and abilities in our home. The power of Godly friendship is amazing. Certain women will come into your life for a season. Take the time to learn from them and apply what you learn in your home. When we are intentional with our actions, especially at home, it frees up time and energy that we can use to glorify God.
Questions to ponder
- Who are your “wise friends?” If you presently have none, pray right now for God to bring her to you.
- How can you invest more into your friendships? What can you do to encourage them?
- What can you do to encourage each other more in the Lord?
I (Leslie) have an assignment for you this week. As we talk about our homes and the important work we all do within those four walls, it is easy to do just enough to get by. I want you to dig deeper. Let’s find some space in our lives. I am going to ask you to do two things:
- First, every day this week find 20 minutes to spend with the Lord. Meditate on His word, journal or just pray.
- Second, work on clearing some space or clutter from your home. Throughout the week, clear 12 inches of space from somewhere in your home. This can be in a closet, off a countertop or a desk. If our living space is clear, our minds are less distracted and free to focus on the Lord and our families.
I look forward to hearing about the different ways you are able to find space in your home. Comment below and let me know how it’s going!
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