“The Lord doesn’t see things the way you see them. People judge by outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart.” 1 Samuel 16:7b (NLT)
I’m so excited for you to enter into this week’s study and I would like to start off this letter by asking you a question: “As a wise woman of God, what do you believe deep within your heart concerning your family?”
As an empty nester, it is a privilege to share words of wisdom that I took to heart and implemented in my parenting days. A most valuable piece of advice offered by a cherished mentor changed my view of belief in our children. She said, “The child you see is not who they will be.”
Doesn’t that encourage you and put a smile on your face, possibly offering you a newfound hope? It did for me. The application of this truth in your parenting can change the trajectory of your child’s life. As mothers, we must be aware of how we view and speak to our children. What is the belief within your heart and attitude of mind toward the young and impressionable individual you have before you? Do you believe he or she will become an independent and competent adult who contributes to society, or is there doubt in your mind? Belief requires a positive mindset, a hope for the future, and faith. It’s been said that “whatever thought or word we repeat to ourselves, whether it is true or false, we will invariably come to believe it.” What are you repeating, either verbally or nonverbally, to those in your care?
Dear sister, align your words, thoughts, and actions with the promises from God’s Word, and practice those truths in regards to each member of your household. As you direct these malleable young ones, allow for differences in each child’s temperament—one child may simply need to mature, while another may require a more substantial hand in discipline if strong-willed. Regardless, every one of God’s children is “fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14). In parenting, we should parent to the child’s bend, so each instruction is unique, as well. Remember to guard your heart and mind, and, above all, LOVE your child deeply!
Be the model of Christ; love those in your care. Allow each one in your household to see His love reflected in you. At Help Club for Moms, we are praying for you. We hope that you will practice the concept of “believing” in your family as you journey through the studies this week.
Remember, sweet woman of God, love the Lord and love your family above all else. Nothing should come before your family; this is non-negotiable. (Be sure to go to myhelpclubformoms.com to print our time management resource: “Life’s Blueprint,” and more free printables for this book.)
Love in Him,
Melissa Lain and the Help Club for Moms Team
“Faith sees the invisible, believes the unbelievable, and receives the impossible.” Corrie ten Boom