“Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.” 1 Peter 4:8
“Want more peace in your marriage? Fire up the thankfulness, act on kindness, and then bathe your husband in mercy.” Kay Wyma
- Read Ecclesiastes 4:9 and 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 today, then say a prayer asking God to protect your marriage, for unity with your spouse and that your love will grow stronger in the power of the Holy Spirit. Ask God to protect your marriage, and to help you forgive any hurts.
Six Simple Ways to Encourage Your Husband
Ted and I are about to celebrate 20 years of marriage! Wow! I remember SO clearly, 20 years ago, how absolutely excited I was to become Mrs. Ted Egly. I talked endlessly, to anyone who would listen, about this amazing man. While we were dating, I would happily tell Ted how GOOD he looked, how well he spoke, how kind he was, how hard he worked, and how great I thought he was.
Somehow, after getting married, I began to take things for granted instead of showing gratitude. It was easier to mention something that Ted was doing wrong, than tell him what he was doing right! So, this study is for ME, as much as it is for you. I needed a reminder to encourage my husband, and I thought maybe you could use one too.
It takes intentionality to pay attention to the good. However, if we LOOK for good, we will FIND it! And the more we notice today, the more we will see tomorrow.
So, whether you’ve been married for 20 days or 20 years, here are…
Six Simple Ways to Encourage Your Husband:
- Send a quick text – Say something like, “I love you”, or “Thank you for working so hard for our family!”
- Make a list – Make a list of the reasons you love your husband—then share the list with him!
- Send a card or write a love letter – Mail it to your husband’s work or put it on his dresser or desk.
- Leave a sticky note – Write a word of love or encouragement and put it in his car, on his computer, or in his lunch bag.
- Say THANK YOU! – Did your spouse do something that shouldn’t require a thanks? Thank him anyway! Everyone likes appreciation. I gladly accept a ‘thank you’ for doing laundry or cooking dinner. So, thank your spouse for mowing, taking out the trash, or fixing something around the house.
- Speak well of your spouse in front of others! – Highlight something your husband has done well. It means so much for you to praise them in front of others. And by the way, this also makes YOU look good. When you are talking about what an amazing guy your husband is, others see that you made a good choice for marrying such an upstanding guy!
Blessings and Love,
Kathryn Egly and the Help Club for Moms Team
Questions to Ponder
- Which one of the six ways listed above will you do TODAY? Make a plan to try them all.
- What is one thing about your husband you are grateful for? Make sure you appreciate this quality about your man.
If you are having a hard time being “thankful” for your spouse…speak to him as if he is the person you WANT him to be. Jesus called Peter a “rock” right before he would deny even knowing him. Jesus saw in Peter what he would become! We can do for our spouse what Jesus did for Peter—and what Jesus does for us as well!
One last note—the BEST time to do this is when you are upset with your spouse. If you are in the middle of a disagreement…take a minute to reflect on what you love about the person you married. It takes the ‘sting’ out of the argument and reminds you that YOU ARE ON THE SAME TEAM!
Words of encouragement have power: the power to build, strengthen, heal, and inspire!
FIRE up some thankfulness, kindness and mercy for your spouse today!