“Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.” Titus 2:3-5 (ESV)
I remember a conversation with a friend some years ago, in which we were speaking about the role of a woman who works from home for the most part. He said, “I believe women should be ‘working at home’”, and I wondered what he meant until I came across this scripture in Titus.
The more I pondered on it, the more I realized that this phrase carried so much meaning and depth, not only for stay-at-home mothers, but for all mothers.
When the Bible says, ‘workers at home’, it is translated to mean women who will work in their own homes, care for their homes, keep a good house, practice hospitality, take care of their households, and most importantly, be the keeper of their homes.
This is very interesting as keeping a house is not restricted to making the home tidy and clean, but it speaks more to the atmosphere that is created in the home.
So, what are some things a worker at home – a.k.a. Mom – should be focused on in her duties?
- Pray over your household as a keeper of that house. The keeper is like the one manning the gates and ensuring safety. Even if we know we cannot take credit for keeping those in our homes safe, we can pray over them and trust them in God’s hands.
- Keep out negative influences by being deliberate about what we allow ourselves and our household members to consume in terms of media content, relationships with others, and conversations that happen in our homes.
- Keep an atmosphere of peace by ensuring that we lead by example in this area. It’s true that as mothers, we have the greatest influence over the atmosphere that is created in our homes by the kind of emotions that we allow to permeate our households.
- Keep a warm temperature by being the regulator of our homes. Do you know what it’s like to step into a home and just feel the warmth of Jesus in that home? That is what others should sense when they step into our homes – the warmth, welcome, and love of
Jesus that permeates our homes.
One thing I have found to help become this person who can truly keep the house and be the worker in the home as the Lord desires is for us to allow ourselves to be led by the Lord and to be led by others who have gone ahead of us.
As God’s Word instructs, the older women should be a model for the younger women, and every one of us can be that learner and the model at the same time. There is always some woman you can pour into at the same time as you are learning from an older woman.
What younger woman can you be an example to today? What older woman can you allow yourself to learn from today?
Prayerfully ask the Lord to show you, then act by connecting with them.
Pray with me: “Dear Jesus, I thank you for the privilege to be a mother and for this responsibility to be a keeper and a worker in my home. I pray that Your grace is made available to me as I purpose to be that woman. Lead me to an older woman to help mentor me and a younger woman to whom I can minister, in Jesus’ name, I pray, Amen.”
Oluseye and the Help Club for Moms Team