What Really Defines You?
We do not dare to classify or compare ourselves with some who commend themselves. When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise. 2 Corinthians 10:12
“We aren’t called to be like other Christians; we are called to be like Christ.”- Stacy L. Sanchez
- Oh, how He loves us! Go to a quiet place and be with your Savior today. Read his Word and meditate on His scriptures. Pray and ask Jesus that you will find your identity in Him and not in other people’s opinions. What the world thinks does not matter!!!
- Read 2 Corinthians 5:16-21, and 2 Corinthians 10:12. Write the beautiful encouragement found in the second half of verse 12 in your journal, “When they measure themselves by themselves and compare themselves with themselves, they are not wise.”
- Pray and ask God to show you any areas where you may be comparing yourself, your marriage, children or circumstances to others. Ask the Holy Spirit to show you how to see yourself the way He sees you, and to move forward in the life He has for you.
What Really Defines You?
Have you ever been sitting with a group of moms as they discuss new dishes to cook while you are wondering what frozen meal to make tonight?
Have you had your child say something rude, and then become so embarrassed because another mom heard and judged your parenting?
Does it seem to you that all your mom friends on Facebook have a happier family than you?
Do you feel like your children would be better off with someone else as their mom?
Do any of the above statements really matter? Is this what really defines us?
I am here to tell you that not a single one of these scenarios has anything to do with your true identity, which is your identity in Christ.
What is identity?
Oxford dictionary defines identity as, “the fact of being who or what a person or thing is.”
In this simple definition, you see that your identity is not about what you do.
Your actions, outward appearance, or strengths & weaknesses are not your identity.
As a Christ-Follower, there is only one way to identify yourself, and that is who Jesus declared you to be.
In 2 Corinthians 5:21, Paul tells us that because Jesus became sin for us, we are righteous. Our identity is righteousness. Peter later says in 1 Peter 2:9, “but we are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of Him who called you out of the darkness and into His wonderful light.”
Isn’t that amazing? We are righteous, chosen, royal, holy, and we belong to God! Wow! If we truly understood who we are in Christ, and all we have because of Him, we would find it easier to simply be ourselves, knowing that God dwells in us and gives us everything we need to live the individual life to which He has called us.
God tells us in 2 Corinthians 10:12 that we are to be who God created us to be, and not compare ourselves to anyone else.
So how can we as moms change our thinking? I know in my life this has been difficult. I am constantly comparing myself to other moms and wondering if I am doing enough. However, my mother gave me some great advice a long time ago.
She said, “There will always be someone ahead of you and someone behind you.”
This opened my eyes to stop focusing on others and start focusing on myself and how God sees me. When we spend time looking at others and worrying or comparing, that blocks out God and how He sees us!
I realize this is easier said than done. I realize this is going to take us praying to our Father and crying out to Him. But dear friends, it is so worth it! Colossians 1:10 says, “and we pray this in order that you may live a life worthy of the Lord [read: not others] and may please Him in every way.”
The Lord is pleased with you! I pray that you feel this deep in your spirit today and that you live in freedom and peace knowing you are righteous and holy.
Questions to Ponder
- Do you like yourself? Pray about this and write in your journal five things you love about yourself.
- Why do we care what other people think? Is it to appear better than them? To get attention? For validation? I challenge you to think and pray about this.
Faith Filled Idea
- Go outside and find a smooth, flat rock. Paint it one solid color that makes you happy. Let it dry and then grab a dry erase marker. Using the marker, write words or phrases reflecting how God sees you. You can simply copy the ones I listed in the study if you’d like. Once dry, set this rock on your dresser or kitchen counter to remind you of the way God sees you and has guided your life until now. You are His and not the world’s. This is called your Ebenezer stone. Samuel uses it in 1 Samuel 7:12 to show how the Lord had helped him.
- Don’t forget to do your Mom Tips! These ideas really will help you to be more organized in your home!
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– What could we accomplish if we could see ourselves the way God sees us?