“This is the day the LORD has made. We will rejoice and be glad in it.” Psalm 118:24 (NLT)
“Next to virtue, the fun in this world is what we can least spare.” Agnes Strickland
- It’s time to meet with your Jesus! He is the One who loves you completely and wants you to come to Him with all of your burdens and cares. Ask Jesus to speak to your heart this week about loving your children and accepting them for who they are. Ask Him to show you your children’s hearts and how to love them well in the power of the Holy Spirit.
- Read Psalm 90:12 and Psalm 113:9. Write these two powerful verses in your journal. Pray and ask the Lord to help you to enjoy your life with your family and to be aware of how short your time here on this earth really is.
Be the Fun Mom
Would you like an easy avenue that will lead straight to the heart of your children? Prayerfully become the fun mom!
Now, you might be saying, “Deb, my day in and day out life as a mom is anything but fun. Do you know what it’s like to have mounds of laundry to do every day? There is no fun in that!”
Dearest mama, joy and fun are as important to your children as clean clothes to wear. These are important keys to their hearts, providing a way to give them joy-filled memories of their childhood. Your kids need to grow up in a happy home with a happy mom. Believe me, the old adage is still true: “If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.” Be the happy mom, and let your kids see you enjoy your life at home with them.
Here are some ideas to help:
- Pray and ask God to help you to become a fun mom, by creating a joyful, inviting, and comfortable atmosphere in your home.
- Tell you kids often how much you enjoy being their mama.
- Smile at your family—often!
- When you send them off to school or an activity, be sure to give them a warm hug and an encouraging word such as “Go M.A.D.!” which means to Go–Make–A–Difference. We did this all the time with our kids and it was a good reminder to them that, even as kids, they can make a difference in their world for Jesus.
- Now is not the time for “house beautiful!” Make your home work for you! Organize it in such a way that it’s easy to clean. Have cubbies for toys and games. Go to garage sales and buy games that your kids and their friends will love to play. We had a place in the kitchen where we stored our art supplies, bins of Legos, games and other fun toys.
- Be the fun mom for your kids’ friends too. Make your house the fun house! Be generous with your kids’ friends. Let them eat your food! Share!
- If you have teens, get a few fun and wholesome video games. I know, can you believe I suggested that? We wanted to have the house where our kids and their friends hung out, so we purchased a few fun video games for them. We popped lots of popcorn, provided a reasonable amount of candy and chips, and the kids were at our house all the time! It would be nice to think that your kids and their friends naturally want to come over, but the truth is that kids generally go to where they are welcome and where there is food and fun. Video games can be a tool, when used carefully and in moderation. Set a timer and establish limits right off the bat. Your kids need to learn self- government anyway. They won’t always be in your home, and they need to learn to how to manage themselves and temper their habits.
Blessings and Love,
Questions to Ponder
- In what ways can I be more fun for my kids?
- What’s holding me back?
- What changes do I need to make to enjoy my life, no matter my circumstances?
Institute a fun new tradition in your home:
Host “Rude Fridays!” Every Friday night, when our kids were growing up, we ordered pizza, invited a couple of their friends over, and settled in for a fun evening. Our whole family would chew with our mouths open, burp, talk with our mouths full, and keep our elbows on the table. The understanding was that they had to be polite and use good table manners the other days of the week, but when Friday came around, it was all-out loud, impolite fun!! Our kids still remember those nights and how much fun they were!
Pray and ask God to help you to be a fun mom:
As my children were growing up, I kept all of my prayers in a binder. This binder has become invaluable to me over the years! I prayed these prayers many times each week. I prayed many prayers, one of which was asking God to help me to be a fun mom. Let God help you!
Here are some of my prayers:
Lord, help me to laugh more and be more fun to be around.
Lord, help me to be more winsome in the way that I talk to my family.
Help me to train my kids in a fun and non-critical way to have awesome table manners and work habits.
Jesus, show me what I can do, in the power of the Holy Spirit, to make my home more vibrant, fun, and a wonderful place to be—a place my husband, my kids, and their friends love to be!
Lord, let everyone sense your presence in our home!
Help me to play with the kids more and enjoy myself more.
Help me to laugh more and be fun to be around!
Lord, help me to be a fun mom!
I remember going into my daughter's room night after night and kneeling beside her bed and crying my heart out to God because I didn’t know how to be a Christian mom; I felt like I had no idea what I was doing. You know what? God is so faithful! He answered me and simply said, “Spend time with me, Deb.” And so I did. I began arising 15-30 minutes earlier each day so I could read my Bible and pray, and plan out my day with my family.
If there was one thing I would love to share with you is that God is personal and loves you as you are. You don’t have to be perfect to be loved by our amazing God! Come as you are! His loving presence can be practically known and experienced. He is not a God who is far away, He is near and easily found. He longs for you to come to Him!
Deb is married to her soulmate of 28 years, Randy. They have two grown children, Christie and Jack, and one precious, answer to prayer son-in-law named Alex.