How to Be a Godly Wife in a Feminist World

“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and put them into practice is like a wise man who built his house on the rock. The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against the house; yet it did not fall, because it had its foundation on the rock.” Matthew 7:24-25.

For some reason, society keeps upending what it means to be a woman. Our culture places femininity on sinking sand that continues to shift. As wives and moms, it is hard to find sure footing. This is why our foundation must be grounded in the never-changing truth of God’s Word.

I believe true feminism means embracing being a woman without feeling the need to circumvent my man’s masculinity.

  • I consider myself to be a smart, capable, strong, empowered woman; I also like for my husband to open the door for me.
  • I like that my husband takes out the trash, mows the lawn, and fixes things around the house. I don’t feel threatened by a man who takes charge; as a matter of fact, I appreciate it.
  • I find joy in cooking for my husband, making him a plate, and placing it before him. I am not obligated to do so, I do it because I love and respect him.
  • I’m incredibly proud that we sacrificed for many years so that I could be a stay-at-home mom. I am equally satisfied that now that my children are grown, I have a full-time job that challenges me, where I can use my gifts and talents, and I can contribute to our household finances.
  • I find it an honor that my two beautiful, strong, capable, empowered daughters call me “mom”. I hope that I have been a Godly example of how to be a Christian wife and mother in a culture that doesn’t put much value in that anymore.
  • I embrace my femininity. I still like to dress up and look good for my husband. I stay in shape, I take pride in my appearance. I like it when he smiles at me across a crowded room. I like that he feels proud to have me on his arm. I like that he believes he is the luckiest man in any room because I am his wife.
  • I am thankful for the gifts and aptitudes God has given me. I don’t feel the need to be more masculine and I don’t want my husband to be more feminine. I think we are perfect and complement each other just the way we are.
  • By the grace of God, our marriage is rock solid after 26 years because we live a true partnership. We respect one another, we don’t compete with each other, he doesn’t control me, and I don’t try to control him.

Being smart, strong, and capable as a woman means all of these things. It doesn’t mean we discard our softness, our caring nature, or our delicacies, and we don’t apologize for allowing our men to be men.

It is not old-fashioned to aspire to be a godly, Proverbs 31 woman, it is our biblical calling. Be proud to hold tight to the values of a Christian wife and continue to lift your husband up in prayer and to ground your femininity on the solid rock of Christ.


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