“In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus” Philippians 2:5
“Pride must die in you, or nothing of heaven can live in you.” -Andrew Murray
- Call your prayer partner for your 10 Minute Prayer Call. Keep trying to connect until you can pray together. What a blessing it is to have someone who cares and can pray with you!
- Read Philippians 2:1-11. For deeper, life impacting study, read the whole chapter. Write verses 3-5 in your journal. Take a moment to ponder the deep meaning of these verses. Drink them in as if you possess an inside view into the exact heart of Christ: like you now have x-ray vision to examine the most inward part of your loving Savior, what He values and what is very important to Him. Ask God to speak specifically to your heart about Christ’s humility, and for the strength and grace to be like Jesus to your husband.
Humility: The Key to a Great Marriage
When I prayed and asked God what to write to you about the topic of marriage, His answer was the same as in all of the other Bible Studies: talk about the Word of God and Prayer. There is nothing more important in all of your life and nothing that will help and bless your marriage like the reading of scripture and faithful prayer.
While living in this world, we hear many voices which tell us how to fix our marriage, but when we read the Word of God faithfully, we hear the Voice of the One who gently calls to us each day in truth.
Jesus IS Truth, and is the One to whom we must make every effort to listen. This true Voice tells us to be humble and to love others deeply. He not only tells us, but He also shows us. Jesus shows us the way of love by His example and His life of love and humility. One look at today’s verses, and we see the real picture of humility- Christ’s humility.
We are told in scripture to be like Jesus in every way, and especially to imitate Christ’s humility. He knows what’s best for us. When we choose daily to die to ourselves and love our husbands in humility, most of our problems will disappear. Pride is the number one reason and the root of all contention. (Conflict)
“Pride leads to conflict; those who take advice are wise.” Proverbs 13:10.
When we purpose each day to live in humility, change begins to occur. We argue less, and there is less competition, and we replace the desire to be right with the desire to love and to serve. We have God’s help, power, and wisdom to have a better marriage.
“He leads the humble in what is right and teaches the humble his way.” Psalm 25:9
Conversely, when we are prideful, God’s Word says that He opposes us!
“God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” James 4:6
I don’t know about you, but I sure don’t want God opposing me! I want to be humble, and I need more of God’s help and grace.
Humility doesn’t come naturally, but it is possible to be humble supernaturally. When we pray and ask God to help us to be humble, He delights to help us, but if you’re like me, you have to pray this prayer every 10 minutes or so, simply because pride is so deeply ingrained in our very being. Change is hard!
The best analogy I have ever heard of trying to institute lasting change is to think of trying to master a new habit like playing the piano. You will never get good at the piano if you don’t practice- all the time!
How many times have we fussed at our children because they forget to practice? My kids would slack on the piano practice from time-to-time in our home, and when it happened, all I could think about was all of the money spent and time invested. Luckily, my children would usually come to their senses and purpose to practice, and the result was always beautiful music playing in our home.
Practice is essential for success!
We need to practice choosing humility. The more we choose to respond in humility, the easier it will become. Don’t get discouraged if you mess up at first, just keep trying! Be like Dori the fish in Finding Nemo, “Just keep swimming, just keep swimming!”
Start today to ask God to help you to be humble in your life and your marriage. Keep asking over and over if you have to. Watch the change begin. You will be amazed!
Questions to Ponder: Answer these questions in your journal
- In what ways do you struggle with pride?
- Do you long for things to be fair, do you want to have your way or be right
- How does this show up in your marriage?
- Pray and ask God to help you to honor your husband and love him in humility.
- Listen to him. Don’t cut him off if he is repeating a story he has already told you before. Look him in the eyes! Really listen to him today.
- This week, do something he wants to do. Watch a movie that he wants to see. Eat where he wants to eat or make his favorite meal that you don’t care for.
- If a conflict occurs, really listen to his side and don’t automatically rush to defend yourself. Remember, when we are prideful and want to win, God is opposing us!
- Write the phrase, “Just keep swimming, just keep swimming” on three sticky notes, and place one at your kitchen sink, one on your bathroom mirror, and one in your car. Let them serve as a reminder to you to keep trying to choose to be like Jesus and imitate His humility. For extra accountability, tell you husband and children about your new commitment to try to be more humble.
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