“Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel—rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God.” 1 Peter 3:3,4 (NKJV)
The word ‘homemaker’ has always evoked in my mind the image of a 1950’s apron-clad woman staying home cooking and cleaning all day. But when you consider it as two words—home maker, it makes me think of something more: the job of making a house feel like a home. This job belongs to every woman.
When you think of what makes a house a home, do you first think of farmhouse sinks, shiplap, open floor plans, or a certain paint color? Or do images of warmth, and people you love, and happy times come to mind? I think we might all agree that the heart of the home means more than the outward beauty of a home.
One thing I’ve noticed in the Bible is that while man focuses on outward appearances, God looks at the heart. When choosing the next king of Israel, God directed Samuel to choose the youngest and smallest member of the family, whose heart was after God’s heart, not the best-looking candidate (1 Samuel 16:7). While it’s okay (and even good) to style our hair, wear jewelry and nice clothes, our primary focus should be making the hidden person of our hearts beautiful (1 Peter 3:3,4).
Similarly, I have a feeling that God cares most about the heart of our homes—are we loving one another, living in peace with one another, and nurturing our own personal relationship with Christ?
As women, we set the tone for our homes. I remember, growing up, visiting my grandparents’ home and after walking across the threshold, feeling this sense of warmth and peace come over me. It was obvious that it was a home where love and peace abounded. While my Grandmother was indeed a talented decorator, what I treasure most is how deeply she loved Jesus and how her home exuded the love of Christ.
I encourage you, dear mom, make your focus Jesus (Hebrews 12:2a). As you set your gaze on Him, He transforms your heart, and makes you and your home a sanctuary of His peace and joy (Romans 15:13).
Elizabeth Moum and The Help Club for Moms Team