Although I’ve never been a stepmom myself (only a bonus kid), I can imagine that being a stepmom can feel lonely. You give and give to everyone in your home and have little time for yourself. The birth mom may be hard to deal with and you’ve had to spend hard-earned money in attorney fees or court costs to try to work things out between the two families. Or maybe she says things that aren’t true about you to her kids during the time she has them. You may feel like an outsider in your own family, and like what you do doesn’t matter. 

I have good news for you my friend: God sees ALL you do and how you are working so hard to try to build a family with a bunch of broken people, yourself included. 

Precious one, please know that God loves you so much and will help you each day to be the Christian woman, wife, mom, and bonus mom you were created to be. He sees you. He sees you. He sees you. 

• He notices the Mother’s Day when you feel left out because your stepchildren don’t remember you. 
• He is so proud when you hold your tongue when you want to be critical of their birth mom. 
• He knows the hurt you feel when your stepkids don’t act like they care or appreciate anything you do for them. 

He is holding you, dear one, and will help you during this challenging season of your life. Your work matters greatly to God. He is with you, hears your many prayers, and will help you walk in this role of stepmom with your family. He knows how hard things are and how much you care. 

He will reward you – on this earth and someday in heaven. Your labor and work is for Him, and it sure does make Him proud. 

Ask God to meet your needs and show you His great love for you. Pray for wisdom and for Him to fill you with love for your bonus kids. Spend time in the life-giving scriptures, and let them guide you each day. 

Then go about each moment of your few days on this earth filled with the love of Jesus Christ, and watch how He leads you. You will be amazed at how wonderful your life has been because of His love and care. 

“But the LORD watches over those who fear him, those who rely on his unfailing love.” Psalm 33:18 (NLT)

Love,

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Deb Weakly

Co-founder at Help Club for Moms

My name is Deb Weakly and I helped create the Help Club for Moms with one goal in mind: to create a community in which moms help moms to know the love of Christ. My own childhood was difficult and filled with sadness. I didn’t grow up in a Christian home, so when I became a Christian (and soon after, a mom), I had no idea what I was doing; I didn’t know what it meant to raise Christ-centered kids, but I so desperately wanted to learn.

I remember going into my daughter's room night after night and kneeling beside her bed and crying my heart out to God because I didn’t know how to be a Christian mom; I felt like I had no idea what I was doing. You know what? God is so faithful! He answered me and simply said, “Spend time with me, Deb.” And so I did. I began arising 15-30 minutes earlier each day so I could read my Bible and pray, and plan out my day with my family.

If there was one thing I would love to share with you is that God is personal and loves you as you are. You don’t have to be perfect to be loved by our amazing God! Come as you are! His loving presence can be practically known and experienced. He is not a God who is far away, He is near and easily found. He longs for you to come to Him!

Randy and I have been married for 33 years and we have two grown children, Christie, and Jack, and one answer to prayer son-in-law named Alex. And now I get to be a Gigi to my sweet little grandbabies, Aspen and Skylar, and Piper. Yay!

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